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I had lunch with Amy and dinner with M today. It was nice to see them on a one on one basis and chat about the goings on in our lives. Amy is going to be leaving soon to work in Telluride, CO again this summer! I’m glad that she will be doing her work there, but I’m going to miss her terribly, especially if she goes to New York in the fall for school. M is taking on a full semester course load at USC for her masters program and working full time for the city of Pasadena. She really is a crazy girl. I do hope my “Tuesdays with M” will not change or get cancelled, but I won’t mind if she does because I know that it would be for a good reason. During conversations with both of them today, I wondered why these fabulous and wonderful people are still single and having man problems. They’re smart and ambitious and gorgeous. I can see men being threatened or intimidated by them because they are brilliant, but I would only want someone who is as equally smart and cute for them. I would accept nothing less. M is afraid that her parents are going to find a random guy and fix her up in an arranged marriage, which is actually quite possible at this point. But I know she deserves better. (If you know a single Indian male who is smart and likes to have fun, let me know!)

I honestly can’t imagine myself dating right now. I’m not saying this in a condescending or mocking way. But I’ve been out of the game for so long that I wouldn’t know where to start. Am I really going to date someone that I meet at a club? Are there any quality guys that go to the clubs at all? How can you build trust with someone that you hardly know? Will I allow myself to do that? I don’t even know the proper dating etiquette anymore. Most of the things about dating I observe from Sex and the City and things that my friends talk about. I feel very fortunate to be in a long term relationship and I am very sympathetic to all of my friends’ plights for their own form of a relationship, whatever it may be. I have a lot of single guy friends and a lot of single girl friends and every time we go out, there are no quality people out there. It would be logical to pair up my single guy friends with my single girl friends, but I know that some combinations and personalities will not work out. It’s too much pressure. The last time I tried to play matchmaker, it wasn’t as successful as planned. They all deserve great and fabulous people to share their lives with, whether it’s for a long term relationship or something that falls in the “other” category. I wonder where all of the cool people hang out because we’re not going to the right places. According to Andrea, there are no quality guys in Denver. So that place is out. So where to now? I really admire all of my friends that put themselves out there because it’s so exhausting. I know that most of this relationship business depends on timing, so I hope that the timing will work out for a few of my friends soon.

To answer many of you, Josh and I have discussed marriage on many occasions, especially since his brother had just recently gotten married and his best friend, Greg, will be getting married this summer. Josh does not believe in marriage in the traditional sense, so it is really hard to convince him to go through with any type of real ceremony or fanfare. (Kinda like the Woody and Mia thing, without the adopted children.) I have accepted this in a way because I realized that I am really not ready for marriage yet either. We are taking things slowly with baby steps and I like it the way it is right now. We are young and in no rush to do anything at this moment. We are just content with life right now. I will let you all know when things change, believe me.

On a sidenote, I talked to Amy P. the other day. She’s back in Japan and it’s snowing over there. Unfortunately, we were not able to hang out when she was in LA, mainly due to the fact that she was only in town for a short amount of time. But I miss her dearly and I am glad she is doing well.

Also, I heard from Kate that Monica came back from India okay. I am so happy and relieved to hear of the news. I was getting really worried for a while there.

**New** SATC quote of the day: “The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.” – Carrie (Season 6-An American Girl in Paris (Part Deux))